the power of yet
Have you ever wanted to try something new, but found yourself thinking, “I can’t do that”? It could be things like public speaking or running 10km.
Or, is there something that you use to be able to do but now you think, “I can’t do that anymore because…. I’m too old… I’m too sick… I’m too fat”? Such as getting down on the floor to play with your grandkids (and getting back up again!) or playing a sport.
The moment you tell yourself you can’t do something, you will subconsciously do everything to sabotage your efforts and avoid things that will help you achieve success. There’s a simple but powerful thing you can do to greatly improve your chances of success.
The power of adding “yet”.
Adding “yet” to the end of a sentence, changes it from a negative declaration to a positive opportunity.
“I can’t run 5km” changes to “I can’t run 5km yet”.
Notice how the intention changes. All of a sudden, you now have an opportunity to achieve something good.
Carol Dweck, an American psychologist and author of multiple books, calls this a growth mindset. Having a growth mindset means you believe you have the power to change your thoughts, behaviours and action. If you have a growth mindset, you say things such as, “This is hard now, but I know it’s good for me,” “I love trying new things,” and “What can I do or learn now?”
People with growth mindsets love to learn and will embrace new challenges, persist in the face of speedhumps and see effort as a path to mastery. As a result, they achieve more and gain a greater sense of free-will.
On the other hand, having a fixed mindset means you believe you can’t change your thoughts, behaviours or action. You say things such as, “I have always been like this” and, “It’s no use, I’ll never be able to…”
People with a fixed mindset are worried about how people see them, rather than how they see themselves. They are less likely to try new things in case they “look stupid” or embarrass themselves. They see effort as useless or a bad thing and give up easily. As a result, they plateau early and achieve less than they expected which reinforces their view of the world.
changing your mindset
You can change your mindset to be more growth rather than fixed. Adding “yet” to the end of statements is just one way to do this. This also goes for those thoughts you don’t verbalise to others. In fact, these are the most important one’s you want to add “yet” to.
It will take a conscious effort initially to become aware of how you phrase these statements and then to start correcting them. But you will definitely start to notice the difference it makes to your life.
Ok, that’s great I can start talking to myself differently and change my mindset. But what good is it if I don’t actually take action?
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